Settling In

The Settling in Process

Build trust

Taking into account the variety of emotions you may be experiencing during this time is important. Talking to your child’s educators during the first few days to get an overview of the process and get to know one another will allow you to you form your initial views of the kindergarten and start the relationship with your child's educators. Some kindergartens do home visits and can discuss the settling in process in your home, this may be a good way to start the relationship. Others will have the initial settling in talk at the kindergarten, with a visit arranged for both you and your child to see the place together. Make the most of this initial opportunity to ask questions and share information. This is the best time to start the process of building a bond of trust between you and the kindergarten. This trust will enable you to impart confidence to your child when they start at the kindergarten.


It is important that you try and relax during this early sensitive stage. Children are very tuned in to the moods in their environment and can notice when parents are worried or nervous. Adjusting is not easy for the parents either and worries are normal. Nevertheless, care should be taken not to transfer this to your child.

Go with the flow

Children have their own daily rhythm that reflects the rhythm of your family life. This natural rhythm will adapt and change over time to suit the new situations. When settled and comfortable attending the kindergarten, children will naturally adapt to the rhythm of the kindergarten. It is natural that your child may be nervous and validating their feelings, allowing them to adjust at their own pace and offering them security is a vital part of the process. If there are questions or concerns regarding the day to day routines and schedules you should be able to discuss these with educators and staff at the kindergarten.

Language and culture

If the language of the kindergarten is different to your home language it is beneficial to talk to the kindergarten about techniques and ways to help your child to follow and understand the rhythm of the day and what is going on.There are some practical tips and hints in this chapter on how this may be organised.It is very important that you continue to use your home language/s during your everyday family life as reinforcing these languages is very important, particularly as your home language/s will most probably be the child’s chosen way to communicate their emotions.By keeping up your home language/s, you can also ensure the development of the home language/s alongside of the language of the kindergarten. The kindergarten should encompass your family culture as well as expose you to the other culture/s it may have within its families and staff.