How to nurture a relationship through the conscious use of language


Language can serve as a bridge between the adult and the child and establishes a connection between the two and could be more accurately described as a tool of social interaction than mere comprehension. The social dimension of language can provide more information than the actual words spoken. Depending on how conscious the people around the child are of their way of speaking to them, the more successfully can the child build a connection to the people around them and develop self-regulation and confidence in social interaction.

Adults should aim to accompanying the child through their language learning process rather than acting as the person teaching the child a language. The shared experiences serve as a base to build a stable relationship with the child. The language used to accompany the child is an attentive and esteeming way of mirroring the child’s actions, interests or initiatives. The adult can follow the child’s lead and comment on what the child is doing, what she can observe or what she is about to do/what will happen to the child soon. This prepares the child for any changes or unforeseen situations and provides a feeling of security and being in control which can be very empowering for the child. The child will be able to have trust in her carers and herself. Using conscious language to accompany the child is a very respectful, appreciative and considerate way to approach the child and interact with her and allows for the adult and child to form an authentic and deep bond.