Language as a Tool to Build Relationships

The Tone, Pace and Intention of Language and How it Affects the Child

Certain characteristics of speech, like a slower pace, soft volume, soft tone, etc. will provide the child with enough information about the current situation and the state the adult is in. Even if the child cannot speak yet or is in a setting where they do not understand the language offered, these characteristics are still important. This way of speaking will help the child feel relaxed and comfortable, allowing them to actively explore their surrounding and be open for new experiences. Even if the child does not fully understand the spoken words, they will notice the responsive and respectful attitude of the adults around them. A mutual object of interest to talk about is a good way to en- courage the child to join in the conversation. The calm and interested tone of voice and the continuity of communication accompanies the child in their world of experiences and gives them a feeling of safety, joyful interaction, appreciation and builds a relationship between the adult and the child.