How to Foster Prosilience in young children   


There are 6 key factors which play a role in the fostering of prosilience in a young child.  


Child(ren)'s ability to self-regulate means that they are able to control their reactions in moments of high emotion. Psychological resilience in this sense refers to the ability to regulate one's feelings, the knowledge of what one can do to help feel self-assured, and also the ability to recognize and ask for outside assistance when needed (Fröhlich-Gildhoff, 2015). 

For example, if Rana were to have a conflict with another child over a toy, she could be left feeling very upset from the attempt of having something being taken away from her.  A child with self-regulatory skills, who is more comfortable in her environment, may be upset but be able to calm themselves down independently or with just a calming word from a caretaker.  

Rana, coming from a completely different environment, who is just getting to know her new surroundings and peers may continue to cry long after the ordeal is over as she has not yet developed or learned the tools to be able to self-regulate. Or it can be that she does have these skills but that the settling in process has been overwhelming for her, and at the moment she is too focused on her anxiety to be able to regulate herself. 

Modeling self-regulation

Maintain a calm demeanor in moments when a child becomes frustrated or upset.

If they fall, instead of immediately rushing to their side, instead ask, “Are you okay?”

Use positive tones in times when regulation is needed such as, “You are going to have a great day!” verses “I’m sorry I have to go, I will be back soon.” 

As a child works on something that is difficult for them, show support, but also encourage them to understand that it is okay not to reach their goal right away. 

In preparing for moments when a child may lose control, give them the knowledge that a change may happen soon, for example, “We will be cleaning up soon. I have set my timer and when it beeps, I will help you to put the toys away and get ready for lunch.”