Feeling understood = feeling seen


Feeling understood is directly connected to self-efficacy, self-reliance and happiness. Children are in the process of trying to make sense of the world surrounding them every day. They have to deal with numerous new and unknown impressions. Ensuring that they feel understood, provides them with a tool to make sense of the world and empowers them to explore and investigate it. 

Not feeling understood is a discouraging feeling. It makes one feel left alone with one's thoughts or opinions. Children might feel left out or abandoned and in turn, doubt their own opinion and furthermore, themselves. This is counterproductive in terms of laying a foundation for self-efficacy and self-esteem in children. 

Not feeling understood can fuel frustration in children and this frustration may grow to an extent to which children are then prone to feel anxious/ nervous/ aggressive.

Feeling understood means feeling accepted and this is the only way for a child to become an integral part of a group. Interaction is a basic need for human beings. Feeling understood opens communication and allows for the child to start exploring rather than worrying about whether or not someone will understand them.