WHY DO I PAY ATTENTION TO WHEN COMMUNICATING WITH PARENTS?
TRANSITION TO A NEW BONDING PERSON OF ANOTHER CULTURE OR LANGUAGE AT KINDERGARTEN
The dialogue and communication with the parents is key:
Build trust: Many parents are very excited, worried, insecure, anxious. Understandable, considering that many parents are giving their child over to foreign hands for the first time. Give the parents the chance to settle in as well. Do not separate within the first three days, so parents can get a glimpse of one another and get to know each other.
Be transparent and ask for transparency: ask questions. Create a questionnaire. Explain. Listen. Share your observations. During the settling in period, the parents can get an insight into the educational work. This forms the foundation for a trusting partnership.
Be positive and optimistic: If the parents feel comfortable, trust you and confidently give their child over into your hands, this will reflect on the child and make the settling in smoother. If the parent is sending conflicting signals (showing reluctance to leave during separation), the child may also reflect this insecurity in his or her own actions.
Practice proper verbal and non-verbal communication with the parents during the settling in process. Parents should be as passive as possible while still being attentive. Ideally, the parent should sit in an uninteresting corner of the room, visible to the child. The parent should not play with the child. The child should learn that it is a place where you play with other children and the professionals: “I am here, you can play quietly.”
Be open, but convicted: the parents are the experts at home for their child. At the kindergarten, the specialist is the expert for the children's group. You know best how it works for you. Be clear about what you want and how you want to achieve it. The parents may need for you to model effective communication. In this environment, you, the educator, set the tone. You give the rules and rituals, make agreements and stress the importance of sticking to them. Reference your experience, expertise and Kindergarten structures and trust your own intuition!